Are you honest when asked what you think of another's work or style or statements ? Or do you tell them something "nice", not wanting to offend or hurt their feelings. Perhaps you are truthful, brutally so - with the end result that you're resented for the bluntness and insensitivity shown. We've all heard and been part of variations on these discussions before.
Some people are known for their frankness and respected for it, while others are known for their tact and ability to say just the right thing at the right time.
Have you thought about what you're known for ?
I'd bet others have, and it runs through their mind before asking you whether they look good in this outfit, are compelling in this argument, or will have their perspective adopted in this argument.
I might encourage you to become known for the nature of your responses, as you will be able to tell an awful lot about the people asking you things if you have defined yourself.
If for example, you're a 'straight-shooter' known for your no BS responses, being (or not being) asked for your opinion tells you whether the other person is actually looking to be told the truth. If you're a flatterer, then those seeking your words will need re-assurance, but those seeking the truth know they need not ask.
By defining yourself amongst your friends and peers like this, you will move beyond the conversations about weather and last night's TV programs. Instead you're going to start to really connect on the said, and unsaid.
Now be truthful, does this blog make me look fat ?
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