A good friendship, a strong one - it can withstand a period of inactivity. Weak ones can't. Even the strongest ties wither over the long term though, and years of no interactions erode the very idea of the friendship.
The death of a friendship isn't loud or clear or something we perceive at the same time, rather it is insidiously creeping in the background. It's the unspoken birthday greeting, or the lack of awareness of some major happening in the others life. Beyond when you stop speaking, it happens when you no longer think of one another. And then one day you just know it's gone.
It's not hard to keep it alive though either. The occasional discussion or the Christmas card holds it status quo for long periods. But like any living thing, you can only abuse a friendship through neglect for so long.
The death of a friendship isn't something we actively contemplate, so your task for today is to think about some old friends and make a conscious decision on whether a little investment there is worthwhile. In the end with any friendships, we should all acknowledge that no decision to act is a decision in itself.
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