The Price of Ego

There are times when we disagree.

That's normal.  What happens next though really defines who we are. (I have as a precept going into this thought, that we are social beings)  When we ackowledge different perspectives, and elect to resolve the issue it usually involves compromise on one or both parties behalf.  And we move on.  If we elect not to resolve the issue, a sign of maturity is to still ackowledge that differing perspectives exist, and a conscious decision is made not to adopt the other's perspective - in whole or in part.  And that's also ok.  After all, you disagreed at the outset for some reason.

When we don't arrive at a resolution, that's when interesting things happen in my opinion.

We can maintain that two varied perspective exist, and consistently not appreciate the other way of looking at things, but we can intllectually understand that a difference exists.  I happen to feel that way for example about some people's dispute about the legitimacy on evolutionary science, when they instead claim biblical accuracy for how we got here.  I have no intention of agreeing with that 'story', preferring what I think is proven instead.  But I don't condemn them for thinking that way. 

The other option is to bolster your own perspective as "the only truth" - a myopia of ego.  When people do that, they make situations black and white, and there is no compromise in sight.  The only way to get a dispute resolved then is to buy into their version of the truth, whether it is based in reality or not.  This is a zero-sum game and a trick we play on oursleves.   

Beware falling for this only truth - the price of ego, as it's often the last respite of those that know down deep that they're in the wrong.